Fwd: Ask Yourself These Five Questions Before The Year Ends

Week 52: Ask Yourself These Five Questions Before The Year Ends
 
Dear Friends,
 
We are near the end of another year and I thought this would be a great time to pose five important questions for you. We become wiser when we ask ourselves the right questions and discover answers that focus us in the right direction. The right questions can offer you an opportunity to grow and consider better possibilities for your life. Over the next week, ponder these important five questions as you close out yet another year.
 
1. What is the biggest lesson God has offered me over the last year?  When we take time to learn the lessons that our trials and triumphs teach us, God is able to mold our character and use us in greater ways. When you ignore the lessons of life, you often find yourself repeating the same mistakes and enduring the same challenges time and time again.
 
2. What is my "divine assignment" at this stage of my life?  Our purpose can transform over a lifetime. In order to remain in synch with God's timing and purposes, we must seek His "assignment" in the various seasons of our lives.
 
3. This time next year, what would I like to see different in my life? In other words, what's my vision?  You need a vision for where you are going in the coming year. No matter how insignificant you think your life is, God wants you to be deliberate about setting goals and moving forward. God's word tells us to "write the vision and make it plain" (Habakkuk 3:2). That means we should write it down and make it clear and specific. Don't overwhelm yourself with a lot of "New Year's resolutions." Instead, choose something meaningful, even if it is a seemingly small change, and take deliberate steps forward.
 
4. What have I been procrastinating about?  Putting off goals and things that God has laid on your heart to do is stressful. Fear is often the culprit and the New Year is a great time to ask yourself if it is time to get unstuck and pursue certain goals or drop them altogether, thus freeing yourself from the burden of an incomplete task hanging over your head.
 
5. How could I make more of a positive difference in the lives of others in the next 12 months?  Our lives really aren't about us. They are about the purpose for which we were created. What is it that you'd like to do by this time next year that will impact others in a meaningful and positive way?
 
My challenge to you this week:
Be reflective this week and notice what you've learned and what you've accomplished this year. Celebrate your progress.

How to effectivly call a person on their bullshit.

Well folks, you first gotta get to where you can talk to a person. If their not calling you and you arent calling them this might not be something that you can do. Secondly, u cant be sad when doing this. Calling a person on their bullshit is no place for the "guilt trip". Be straight up! Let the person know what you're feeling and why it has anything to do with them. And hopefully they will be able to see that it doesnt sit too well with you.

 

Calling a person on their bullshit is a popular tactic but it definately isnt very effective for anyone but the party that is doing the calling. It makes you feel better inside knowing that your feelings are out there and in the mind of the person who made you feel this way. lol

 

Now last, be quick and to the point. Here is a good example, Your phone rings-----> Hello!------------>Yeah wassup ma? (A nigga acting like nothing ever happened)----------> Oh aint nuffin but im not really messin wit u right now----------------------->ahh here we go with the bullshit-------------->yeah here we go with me calling you on your bullshit. Listen dont call me and act like aint shit happen, you know we had a date and you never showed up. Look I dont see this going anywhere so lets sever ties today. Okay?

 

That was a simple example of how it goes, it could be simpler or more complicated. Just be calm and let em know. LMAO!!

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I want to be easy but I have to be hard.

I want to be ultra nice and give second and third chances but it usually hurts in the long run so in order to protect my heart from and further "kick ball" treatment. I have to be hard. My being hard is still pretty easy tho, It only means calling a person on their bullshit. LOL Which is the title of my next blog post.

Scorpio's Horoscope for today, broken down by me!! LOL

Much attention appears to be focused on a certain person. You appear to want some of that attention focused on you. As much as you recognized  reasons why someone's well-being and needs are important, you too have needs that are far from being met and would like one or two people to be aware of this. The truth is you are surrounded by love and support, perhaps more than youre aware of or are willing to ask for. You arent facing a tense situation alone.

 

Woooow!!!! This is a good one because its so damn true. I would like to act like a baby sometimes and pout until I get my damn way. Can that happen? Anyway, this one is pretty self explanitory. I want attention. And its just as well because I fucking deserve it like so damn much. I am willing to give it too. So that says something great about me huh? Anyway, all the scorpios, please enjoy!

If you hit me and I dont reply.

If I dont reply to your text, email, call, fb message, or twitter message, This means that I am not beat to talk to you. Turn right around and put your energy toward someone that has been hitting you that YOU havent been beat for. What comes around goes around (that is why I get back to everyone) I dont have time for friends that im not beat to hear from. You're either important to me or you're nothing to me.

Random Thought: A good thing

Now yall know im always here to put shit into prospective for yall. I guess most of us feel like we are a good thing or we feel like we have a good thing or we feel like we want a good thing. And we all know that our good thing may not be anyone else's good thing.

 

I recently found a damn good thing and now I want to posess this thing. But can I? See we are talking about a person here. Can a person ever really be ours if we did not birth them ourselves?

No lets go even deeper! Im a woman, am I supposed to be finding a man and trying to posess him. Or is this a mans role? I read alot of articles on this subject. And I have come to the conclusion that we make this shit alot more complicated than it really needs to be. If you want someone, let it be known. After that, if when you look up that person is there, that person feels that same about you. If a person knows you want them and they arent there next to you-------> With you is not where they want to be. And that is really all there is to it. Its simple.

 

As adults we have to try to make sure we are taking care of our business while also maintaining our wants and needs. So of course we have to try our hands at happiness. Its what we all want and for alot of us it drives us to do alot of things. I hope this article encourages everyone to get where they want to be and hold that spot down. Peace!

Clothes!!! and More Clothes!!!

Why do I love clothes so much? Most of the time they dont even fit me right. But the ones that do, I love so much. So I have a fantastic idea. Why dont I design my own clothes?? And make them?? I know some of you are thinking to your selves, If she makes it, it would probably be real fly. Yes I agree, thats why its time to start thinking outside the box. And stop paying all this damn money for other people to make stuff for you that isnt even TAYLORED to you.

 

First stop! Dinner with my creative editor Deemis. Aka the lady with the sewing machine. We will design and create a top then show pics of it on the blog. It will be casual and cute for the MILF that aint worrying about being a MILF and the COUGAR that aint worrying about being a COUGAR. Stay tuned!!

Silence is GOLDEN

Well today I decided that I am going to give Facebook a break. Why? Because I do too much talking on their and too much looking at the page of the man that im loving. Its too much to get into on there but still not enough. So I decided that instead of Facebook I will do twitter and my blogging. My blogging has been neglected. And I feel that I have alot to offer the world so im going to start blogging much more.

 

First off, I've been giving good hair all weekend and this morning thanks to my new styling technique. Here is a pic.

 

 

 

 

Good Hair day